A highly unsettling blend of true crime and coming-of-age memoir The Stranger Beside Me meets Prepthat presents an intimate and thought-provoking portrait of girlhood within Manhattans exclusive prep-school scene in the early 1990s, and a thoughtful meditation on adolescent obsession and the vulnerability of youth.Piper Weiss was fourteen years old when her middle-aged tennis coach, Gary Wilensky, one of New York Citys most prestigious private instructors, killed himself after a failed attempt to kidnap one of his teenage students. In the aftermath, authorities discovered that this well-known figure among the Upper East Side tennis crowd was actually a frightening child predator who had built a secret torture chambera "Cabin of Horrors"in his secluded rental in the Adirondacks.Before the shocking scandal broke, Piper had been thrilled to be one of "Garys Girls." "Grandpa Gary," as he was known among his students, was different from other adultshe treated Piper like a grown-up, taking her to dinners, engaging in long intimate conversations with her, and sending her special valentines. As reporters swarmed her private community in the wake of Wilenskys death, Piper learned that her mentor was a predator with a sordid history of child stalking and sexual fetish. But why did she still feel protective of Gary, and why was she disappointed that he hadnt chosen her?Now, twenty years later, Piper examines the event as both a teenage eyewitness and a dispassionate investigative reporter, hoping to understand and exorcise the childhood memories that haunt her to this day. Combining research, interviews, and personal records, You All Grow Up and Leave Me explores the psychological manipulation by child predatorstheir ability to charm their way into seemingly protected worldsand the far-reaching effects their actions have on those who trust them most....
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You All Grow Up and Leave Me: A Memoir of Teenage Obsession Reviews
For me, the life and death of Gary Wilensky took place over one year, the same period my own mind became the most dangerous it has ever been. At some point both our stories nearly overlapped, though not entirely and certainly not neatly.
2.5 stars. This strange true crime memoir is going to polarize a lot of people I think.
Tennis was very on trend in the 90s. It was the chic thing to do, particularly if you were a well off Upper East-Sider. And in the early 90s, Piper Weiss was just that. At 14 ...more
Really interesting. A combination memoir and true crime investigation, this book is about the author's 1990s-era relationship with Gary, a tennis instructor who was later accused of being obsessed with his tween and teen students and plotting to kidnap one of them.
She looks back at that time in her life and reflects on what it's like to be a girl exploring her independence, identity as a woman and sexuality. She also researches and reflects on Gary and the case. It's a fascinating story of how k ...more
Best book I’ve read in the past year
Let me start by saying this book is fantastic. It's a near perfect blend of memoir and true crime narrative. The pacing of the book is just right -- if you don't know the story the author is writing about (I did not, and I was very good and didn't Google it until after I finished the book) she drops gradual clues as the book goes along that, for me, made this a real page-turner.
Those who know me know that I am usually reading more than one book at a time. It's usually 3 but can be as many as 5. ...more
"The onus is on us to change, be better, be less like who we are. We're at fault for caving to our impulses and encouraged to steer ourselves toward more calculated decisions. Once we called this pursuit purity; now we call it evolving."
Thank you, Goodreads for an advanced copy of this book. Opinion is my own!
I will start this off by saying that judging someones life in book form is never easy. This is someones life in your hands. They felt comfortable enough to share their story and we are judg ...more
This put into words so much I have never been able to about being a teenage girl. So good.
A chilling memoir.Young girls from the wealthy private school society in Manhattan,Gary a tennis coach.that these young women’s parents hired for private lessons.Gary who personally drove them to lessons Gary adored by these young girls proud to be one of his girls.As Piper Weiss looks back at this time of her life her excitement at being one of his girls.
When this instructor was discovered to be a pedophile a predator everything changed.As an adult Pipers memoir is heartbreaking these innocent ...more