Operating Instructions for the Millennial set: a fiercely honest account of becoming a mother before feeling like a grown up.Meaghan O'Connell always felt totally alienated by the cutesy, sanctimonious, sentimental tone of most writing about motherhood. After getting accidentally pregnant in her twenties, she realized that the book she needed--a brutally honest, agenda-less take on the emotional and existential impact of motherhood--didn't exist. So she decided to write it herself.And Now We Have Everything is O'Connell's brave exploration of transitioning into motherhood as a fledgling young adult. With her dark humor and hair-trigger B.S. detector, O'Connell addresses the pervasive imposter syndrome that comes with unplanned pregnancy, the second adolescence of a changing postpartum body, the problem of sex post-baby, the weird push to make "mom friends," and the fascinating strangeness of stepping into a new, not-yet-comfortable identity. Most unforgettably, O'Connell brings us into the delivery room as no writer has before, rendering childbirth in all its feverish gore and glory, and shattering the fantasies of a "magical" or "natural" experience that warp our expectations and erode maternal self-esteem.Channeling fears and anxieties that are, shockingly, still taboo and often unspoken, And Now We Have Everything is an unflinchingly frank, funny, and intimate motherhood story for our times, about needing to have a baby in order to stop being one yourself....
|Title||:||And Now We Have Everything: On Motherhood Before I Was Ready|
|Number of Pages||:||240 pages|
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And Now We Have Everything: On Motherhood Before I Was Ready Reviews
As someone who doesn't plan to have kids, I did not expect to be so engrossed by this or to identify with it so thoroughly. It just hit a pitch-perfect tone for me; there's no navel-gazey, hippy mom bullshit in sight, just a particular mix of insecurity and mild cynicism that characterizes life for a lot of late 20-to-early-30-something women as the pressure builds to figure out your life and what you want re: career, marriage, kids.
God, did I recognize some uncomfortable parts of my younger sel ...more
This is the book on motherhood that I've been waiting for. I can't count the number of times, while reading, I thought "Wow, I thought I was the only one that thought that / felt that way". Refreshingly candid about pregnancy, birth, and the early days of motherhood, And Now We Have Everything spoke deeply to me. There were parts where I was laughing so hard that tears streamed down my face, times when I was gently weeping as I remembered, and moments where I just felt so thankful that this was ...more
Essential reading for women, of a certain age, who know they want or are not sure if they want children. O'Connell offers the most valuable gift a woman can give to other women, which is her unrelenting honesty and vulnerability. But she does so with enough self-awareness and critical thought so as not to conclude her experiences of pregnancy, birth and motherhood apply to everybody. This is a clear-eyed portrayal of one woman's experience, with an author who knows her experience is shared by so ...more
I cannot agree more or emphasize enough how important it is for (especially new) parents to find that line of communication and open up, with each other and with unbiased parties, to just unload, vent, rejoice, brag, whatever. This book felt like looking in a mirror with a self-amused “SMH” face at realizing just soon enough that there no prescribed or mandatory schedule for enjoying parenthood, and that it’s all going to be fine, eventually.
I don’t know what else to say other than this book made me happy.
There are certain periods in life I would not want to travel back to and one of them is early motherhood. It's amazing the difference between the perceived version (the loving mother tenderly gazing at her newborn child, the child cooing back) and the everyday, well, monotony - desperation for time alone, hating breastfeeding, feeling like a lump and no longer recognizing your own body, the crying (the baby, yourself), the constant attachment. Is it obvious by this point that I too suffered from ...more
A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it.
This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I suppose this is like the evil (and totally honest) twin to What to Expect When You're Expecting.
O'Connell doesn't waste time with the bullshit. I have no idea if this book will have the same effect on those who haven't ...more
Looking forward to the day when a memoir that grapples honestly with the universal ordinariness of motherhood doesn’t feel like a fucking revelation. Until then, we have this wonderful book that so carefully observes the finest details of those early days of creating and sustaining a human life. I hope this book’s visibility helps to raise the tide so that other women, including those who are not white writers from NYC, have a larger platform to share their own honest accounts of motherhood.